You can't make people do right by you but you can decide how often you let them do you wrong and you keep letting them do you wrong. You get indignant, hurt, and destroyed and they keep tearing down your self-esteem and courage you've spent years building, making you feel horrible about yourself all the time but you continue to do so believing that one day they are going to change but you know deep down that they are never going to change because they know you are afraid of leaving them because you feel will be lonely once you leave them.
If you are afraid of being lonely, which is one of the reasons you are still with the set of people, then be ready to lose yourself one day because you have made them realize your happiness depends on them and you are the mercy, so they can decide when to let you be happy or when to tear you down and make you feel horrible about yourself.
We lose ourselves to these people forgetting that we can be happy on our own if we choose to, we do not need people, especially people who make us feel horrible about ourselves to do so, you do not need those sets of people to define you because they are going to define you wrongly.
It is better to be happy and whole and feel good about yourself than be with someone who makes you feel low and degraded and unloved all the time. You can be happy with yourself whether with someone or alone all the time if you choose to, your happiness is your decision to make and not someone else. Don't let anyone be the decision-maker of when you should be happy and when you shouldn't be because you own your body, nobody does.
Your happiness is your decision to make and nobody else has the right to decide when to make you happy because nobody owes you that except you who owes it to yourself.