Greetings to everyone on the Cent community. It's my pleasure to write this post tonight and I believe that it'll be an encouragement to someone who might be going through one setback or the other. Good evening!
Many people across the world don't believe in themselves and this has been a challenge to their progress and wellbeing.
Life on it's own fights mankind on a daily basis and only those that are able to withstand life's battle are able to proceed to the next level in life. This simply means that life's journey is in stages and the strategy used in crossing the first stage, isn't relevant for the next stage.
Believing in yourself doesn't mean that you'll succeed in life or become wealthy, but there's something it does. Believing in yourself gives you that momentum needed to fight very obstacles on your way to success.
One of the first obstacle you face in life if not overcome can ruined your life is low self-esteem. I don't know if I'll say that low self-esteem comes our way naturally or it emanate from our upbringings.
Post parents don't believe in their children just because they failed them at one point in time or the other. Failure from my own perspective comes when one totally gives up in life or death. For a parent(s) to tag his or her child as failure and tells the child to his or her face is one of the causes of low self-esteem.
Most parents have forgotten that they were worse than their children when they were kids and the earlier they come down to their child's level of reasoning and understanding, the better for that child and his or her future.
The second obstacle is what I call high expectations. Most teenagers and children have high expectations in life, which is very good and should be encouraged by their parents and people around them. But, this could become a problem if not overcooked on time. In Sub-saharan Africa, many peoples high expectations in life have been dashed to the wall and since then, they haven't recovered from the incident.
Everyone wants to be either a Medical Doctor or a lawyer or a very rich banker, but most persons ended up becoming something different from what they aspired as kids and teens. In Nigeria where there's limited office work or what's called government jobs, people venture into petty trading even as graduate just to keep body and soul going.
It should be noted that high expectations in life have made many to commit suicide in the past and will make many to do same in the future if they don't readjust their hopes.
What does believing in yourself mean?
I'll give some tips about how you can believe in yourself.
- be yourself
Being yourself simply means be real to yourself and the society. - be contented
Contentment is very crucial in believing in yourself. This is because you'll begin to separate yourself from any unhealthy competition. For instance, most newbies on the hive blockchain wants to get 200 $Hive upvotes immediately they onboard into the blockchain just because they see others getting such high upvotes for a single post. The problem is that many don't know that some high upvotes comes as a result of long lasting relationships and trust built for years on the hive blockchain. Being contented doesn't mean one shouldn't aspire to get there someday, but it takes time and patience to become someone that received such high upvotes. - having plan A, B and C
Most people live a life without plan, which is very risky. This puts you at the mercy of others and can make one not to believe in him or herself. Multiple plans makes you more relevant and productive and also giving you an edge over others. - make your decisions and stand by it
Most people allow others take their decisions for them, which makes them vulnerable. Making your decisions yourself have a way of building your self-esteem. Even in companies and families, owners and parents test their children's maturity by their decisions. Take that difficult decision yourself and stand by it, whether it prevails or not, it has a way to build your self-confidence.